I often ponder why some people end up in unyielding relations, and what makes them still believe in that thing called ‘love’, and why they don’t walk away even if they don’t get what they deserve? A lot of people are never really sure what a good and happy relationship looks like nowadays or how a ‘good companion’ should act towards their respective partner. Thus, based on simple psychological facts and observations, I have tried to explain by the following, how a good partner should behave while in a relationship. Of course, its not a hard and fast rule and neither is the list exhaustive, but trying to at least inculcate the below in your life for the sake of you beloved one, especially for married couples, will take your relation a long way.
- They open up to you
Some people find it hard to express their feelings, fears and even intrinsic desires effectively, but having the right person in our lives often helps to shed those unknown fears. A pleasant partner, while understanding that some things need to be kept private, will not intentionally hide things from you or suffocate their emotions inside, as they know that in doing so there will only be unnescessary tension and frustration in a perfectly great relationship.
- They are honest with you
When building a foundation for a happy, healthy relationship, your person will and should understand that honesty is always the best policy.
- They make you feel comfortable being honest
Comfort in a relationship comes from the ability to be open and be honest with your partner without having to regret it. And this in turn comes from the assurance that you will never be judged or overreacted at.
- They will make themselves worthy of your trust
Good companions will want you to be comfortable and confident in your relationship. Without trust, there is no foundation for love or respect. He will understand that trust is not just handed over to someone — it has to be earned, and then it has to be kept.
- They will inspire you
To takes effort to really be inspiring to someone, both in how one lives their own life and how they encourage others to live theirs. A good companion’s drive and motivation will rub off on you as he pursues his own passions and coerces you, too, to conquer your dreams.
- They will always make you feel beautiful
A good partner will understand that making you feel good about yourself does not just mean saying the words to you.They notice the details when you put efforts into your appearance and remind you how attractive you truly are and make you realise that when you love someone for who they actually are, everything about them becomes beautiful to you, even their flaws.
- They never let you forget the love they have for you-
A lot of people complain that their companions do not make them feel loved, wanted or appreciated. This is a deeply crucial aspect — a good companion will always remind you how much you mean to them. If someone truly loves you, you will know it and feel it by they action, be it big or small gestures of affection.
- Little gestures of love
Did you need an extra hand at cleaning or at cooking? Did you mention an art exhibit coming to town and he made plans to take you to see it? No matter how small certain things may seem, your beloved will understand that they matter to you and will certainly live upto your expectations if they loves you enough.
- They improvise wherever needed only to please you
An egoistic yet loving companion who thrives on contstant self improvement will always be challenging you. They do these things for themselves, and yet have an assertive impact on the relationship as a whole.
- They never cross the line
Disagreements are a part and parcel of every relationship. But a good partner will deal should focus on the topic at hand and deal with it without crossing any lines. Even while arguments, they never make things personal, insulting and abusive, be it mentally, physically or emotionally.
- They are understanding enough to know that actions speak louder than words
Having the right person in your life will make you realise that those who make empty promises instead only deserve your kick to shove them off your life, and nothing else.
- They will stand by you
When a good companion commits love and time to someone, there are no stipulations or conditions required to be fulfilled. There will be good times and there will be not-so-good times. Yet, they will stay by your side and be your teammate cum soulmate through it all.
- They always support you
No matter what you want, even to the extent to going back to school after 20 years, start a singing career or stay at home to raise a family, a good companion will always encourage you and what you want in life, unless of course you’re talking like a complete crazy person. They will be beside you every step of the way, cheering on your victories and comforting you during the losses.
- They will be your sanctuary
Regardless of how attracted your partner is to you or how funny they think you are or how well to do you are, if a your beloved cannot sleep soundly by your side at night, none of it matters. Making them feel safe around you is one of the best things that you can do for your companion.
by Dr. Aafreen Kotadiya