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Rendezvous with parents: A recipe to be a success at Parents teachers Meeting

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If you are a teacher, this piece of writing is surely a recipe to handle parents. On the other hand, if you are an administrator, it will be of no use to you; you will regret reading it because you are helpless. If you are a student, just close the document, it’s not for you. It is not be used to make fun of adults. If you are parent, like me, I am sorry it is like looking at a mirror, however distorted you think it is. So, for all bon voyage!

Parent teacher meeting is one of the most interactive events in schools. Every year, teachers prepare for PTMs while collecting data, attendances, progress checkpoints, what and what not. Many teachers take it as an opportunity to meet the parents and a true picture about the progress of the child. For me, it’s an opportunity to know the parents: thus the kid’s background.

The only thing that bothers me on PTM is my table that looks like a stall. I feel like selling something, while telling the qualities of my product, its pros and corns, satisfying customers and seeing my fellow teacher in the same room with better stalls. During free minutes, I am not free but busy in counting parents meeting my peer teacher, listening to the conversations next to my ‘stall’, getting some more words, proverbs, examples for my next customers,; hence, stealing some words from my peer teachers. I think at this time it’s legal to steal some words from your friend’s conversation to make your customers happy.

After spending many useful and useless years in education, today, I feel I am good at PTM. Actually I know very well how to deal with parents. I think I ought to publish a manual of rules and safety precautions for PTM, so -you -my fellow teachers can actually enjoy these meetings, and  you guys  can begin  and finish it with the same motivation you start   with.

In my observation, following are some of the major kinds of sub-specie of phylum “Parenta” that ayou can encounter anytime, and if you know their psychology and their intentions you are the ‘knight’ of the battlefield.

1. The hookers: This type is awesome, they just hook you. No matter how much data and evidences you have to tell, you are lost for a moment. They are decent, have all the knowledge about the world, can talk on anything, give you marvelous suggestions about your personal and professional life (if you allow them to stretch their boundaries). They know how to hook you and they are really well dressed, soft spoken but quickly switch their topics. At times dealing with them, you feel lost and don’t remember from where you had started.

Relax; they just came to you for their own catharsis. Don’t interrupt them, this will annoy them. Let them finish, if they don’t; then don’t mind. They have a complete recorded version and they will tell the same to every teacher. Praise them a lot and make them realize that they are the most amazing parents on planet. Start slow with them, don’t use metaphors. They will be offended if you used some quotations. Show them that you learned a lot from them. In fact it is better to just them report card and save your skin. They are already very learned so they will draw the conclusions themselves.

2. The Sadists: This typical sub specie always tries to catch faults in the kid without considering any other factor. Then with very sad face, they curse their fate, system, government, school, kid, and everyone except themselves. They believe that all the world problems are due to their kids or this planet is not suitable for their kids.

Beware; you must make a sad face and show empathy, otherwise they will count you as one of the problematic factors. They want someone to pull them up from their grief and show sympathy. Show it. Give them the right picture but keep your flash lights off. Don’t make them cry. Easy way is to discredit their kid and friends for weak areas and give credit of every good progress to them. Things will go smooth.

3. The outdated: This sub specie is overwhelming these days. They compare their days of student life with their kid. They hate technology as this is a major source of distraction for their kids. They hate mobile but give you their cell number at the end. They don’t like internet but will give you their email to update them. They think today’s customs and norms are rubbish and their time was better.
Alert: Take their side, it’s better to pretend that you belong to their age than defending technology and come to the point. They are really easy to handle; curse technology, Facebook, whats app, and everything which involves any slight artificial intelligence and bring them to the point. Throw every bad thing on the shoulders of present era and every good thing in the lap of divine powers. You will feel comfortable.

4. The tigers: This specie is born to bully the teachers. This specie thinks that their kid is a super natural human and born to perform 111% in all tests of life. They don’t mind targeting anyone to blame for low marks. They always come with ‘loaded guns’. One such mother asked me “Can you explain why my kid lost three marks in a class test?” My reply was “Yes I can” and looked at her. She got confused and while being furious said, “Ok then do it”. I showed the test, showed my detailed feedback and told her that the kid did mistake in calculating a value on calculator. She looked at me with terror and asked “What if he did the same mistake in the final examinations? Do you take the responsibility that he will not do it again?” That day, I had enough reason to commit suicide, but I calmly replied “Look I have told your kid that this is the mistake, and this is the way to use calculator, I hope he won’t do it again” .But that tiger mother was on my nerves: “so you won’t take responsibility …….blah blah blah” She actually didn’t say word “blah” but this is my assumption. Finally she proved me the most irresponsible person on this planet, threatened that she will talk to school administration. The second most irresponsible human was her kid and she loudly announced that she is going to snatch every facility of life from her kid. Although she mentioned some irresponsibility of her husband as well, but I am not interested in third position, as I was on the victory stand.

Beware: This is the most dangerous sub specie. They are not there to listen about the progress but hunt for mistakes. Don’t argue with them. Accept your fault, say sorry and move on. Accept that this tiger cub kid is totally your responsibility.

5. The “By the ways”: This is innocent specie. Neither divine, nor themselves had any intentional effort behind having kids. They are always in a state of shock on having kids.  They are “by the way” parents and keep kid’s soul. They will come to you with a smiling face, keep on sitting and listening to you with any further expressions, more interested in the décor of your table (I called it stall). While listening to you, keep on looking at soft boards, walls or the hanging clock. They listen to everything and once you finish; they say “thank you” and move to next table.

 Cheer: they are a blessing. Don’t break their hearts. Don’t try to make them speak; remember they are “by the ways”. Tell them things calmly and keep your volume low. This specie learns more when you mimic. Don’t be loud and too blunt with them. They are actually harmless.

6. The Parents: This is the most endangered sub specie. I always wait for them, and find few. They love their kids by being empathetic. They believe in two way communication and don’t look for the shoulders to cry or throw all trash. That was a cherish moment for me when a father said “I don’t want to see the result card. Tell me, being a teacher how deep is my kid’s understanding in your subject” I could explain him different facets comfortably of the kid’s progress, discussed how we can support the kid in weak areas, analyzed what factors and psychological hindrances might be a friction in his way, his natural inclinations and every possible aspect. These parents belong to growth mindset as they believe in mistakes as a fundamental property of humans. They don’t yell, curse, be sad or don’t beat their chests, but stand with dignity to support their kid. They believe that education is much more than everyday class testing and it is holistic.

Love them: They need your support. Tell them every single thing from the heart and sincerity. They are the Parents.

Umair Qureshi
Beacon House

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19 Year Old Pakistani Wins Princess Cup

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Hammad Hadi Khan wins 29th Princess Cup International Youth Tournament
Pakistan continues to dominate the world of youth scrabble! Hammad Hadi Khan wins 29th Princess Cup youth scrabble championship in Thailand. The runner up, Moiz Baig is also from Pakistan.
The three-day 29th Princess Cup Youth tournament kicked off at Bangkok, Thailand. The Princess cup is an annual event sponsored by the royal family in Thailand and is attended by the top players from all over the world.

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Muniba Mazari wins Karic Award in Serbia

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The most beautiful lady on the wheel who inspires millions around the World.

If you feel demotivated & depress & now you can’t do anything, you are helpless then you must Google one name; The great Muniba Mazari. The biggest example of positive attitude, passion for life, passion for work and strongest will power. The greatest example of courage & will power that can even beat death & any disability!

Muniba Mazari wins Karica Brother Award. The Karic Brothers Award has been established as a result of a firm belief in the inexhaustible capacity of intellect and value, primarily of our own people. Its purpose is to stimulate and motivate all those who create and produce value that will result in more pleasant living conditions. On the occasion of the 25th Anniversary of the BK Company, the Karic family and the Karic Foundation introduced the Karic Brothers Award. It is presented for the highest achievements in the following categories: culture and arts, scientific research work, publishing and journalism, economy and commerce, humanitarian activity in support of peace, cooperation and amity amongst people. The award is presented annually. Individuals, organisations and institutions all have the right to propose a candidate. The proposal should be submitted in written form to the Karic Foundation. The Executive Board decides on the laureates. A team of experts proposes to the Board three candidates in each category of whom one is subsequently chosen. The award was originally presented in 1998 and the names of its winners best attest to the justified ambition of becoming, with time, the Serbian equivalent to the Nobel Prize.

“Thank you very much Karić Foundation for acknowledging the efforts and for giving this huge honour! While I am nothing without the support of my mother, family and friends I’ll dedicate this award to all the people of the world who suffer discrimination of any sort. To all the people who are made to believe they are lesser of a human. Let’s hope for a tomorrow free of discrimination be it gender, racial, religious or against people with physical or mental challenges. Let’s be there for one another, let’s embrace everyone the way they are. In the end, a little more kindness and a little less judgment is all we need to make this world a better place to live. So let’s be kind and be human!” 
-Muniba Mazari

Written by Rohayl Varind

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5 year old Child from Pakistan wins Global Award

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5 year old Child from Peshawar, Pakistan wins global award.

A local boy Essa Zaheer who is five-year old made Pakistan proud when his two-minute film won first prize in the “Peace in the Street Global Film Festival (PSGFF)” at the United Nations headquarters.

The short film by Essa Zaheer, “I will be your Spiderman,” stood first among the 320 movies made by young.

The film shows how a kid becomes Spiderman and spends all his savings to buy uniform and books for a young girl working in his house as a maid.

Essa Zaheer was presented with the prize in the United Nations Headquarters in New York while his family accompanying him was given tour of the UN offices and the United States State Department. 

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Swiss Government Excellence Scholarships for International Student 2018/2019

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Each year the Swiss Confederation awards Government Excellence Scholarships to promote international exchange and research cooperation between Switzerland and over 180 other countries. Recipients are selected by the awarding body, the Federal Commission for Scholarships for Foreign Students (FCS).

The Swiss Government Excellence Scholarships are aimed at young researchers from abroad who have completed a master’s degree or PhD and at foreign artists holding a bachelor’s degree.

Eligible Regions: Open For All

Types of scholarship

Research Scholarship – Available to post-graduate researchers in any discipline (who hold a master’s degree as a minimum) who are planning to come to Switzerland to pursue research or further studies at doctoral or post-doctoral level.

Research scholarships are awarded for research or study at all Swiss cantonal universities, universities of applied sciences and the two federal institutes of technology. Only candidates nominated by an academic mentor at one of these higher education institutions will be considered.

Art Scholarships – Open to art students wishing to pursue an initial master’s degree in Switzerland.
Art scholarships are awarded for study at any Swiss conservatory or university of the arts. This scholarship is available to students from a limited number of countries only.

Benefits of Swiss Government Excellence Scholarships for International Student 2018/2019 

The scholarship covers a monthly payment, exemption of tuition fees, health insurance, air fare, housing allowance, etc., as applicable. Please refer to the country-specific fact sheets for exact scholarship benefits.

Eligibilities

Please refer to the country-specific fact sheets for general and specific eligibility criteria.

The FCS assesses scholarship applications according to three criteria:

a) Candidate profile
b) Quality of the research project or artistic work
c) Synergies and potential for future research cooperation

Location: Switzerland

Application Deadline: September-December 2017

Official Link to Apply for Swiss Government Excellence Scholarships for International Student 2018/2019 

https://www.sbfi.admin.ch/sbfi/en/home/bildung/scholarships-and-grants/swiss-government-excellence-scholarships-for-foreign-scholars-an.html#2146630976

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One Young World Summit 2017- Leading Pakistan Award (Fully Funded)

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One Young World has launched a global ‘Local Organising Committee’ model. Known as NYLOCs ( ‘National Young Leaders Organising Committees’)

The One Young World NYLOC for Pakistan is chaired by Naila Mir. Naila has 16 years experience centered around sustainable business, corporate social responsibility, employee engagement, partnerships, and strategic communications. She recently established her own not-for-profit network, P3 Collective, to help young people achieve their purpose and collectively make an impact. Naila is a passionate champion of young leaders and is working hard to support bright young talent from Pakistan to participate in the upcoming One Young World Summit in Bogotá.

One Young World’s newly established Local Organising Committee for Pakistan is proud to announce one Delegate scholarship place for an impactful young leader from Pakistan to attend the One Young World Summit 2017 in Bogotá, 4-7 October.

What does the scholarship include?

  1. Access to the One Young World Summit 2017 in Bogotá, Colombia
  2. Hotel accommodation on a shared basis between 4 October and 7 October
  3. Catering which includes breakfast, lunch and dinner.
  4. Transport between the Summit accommodation and the Summit venues
  5. Summit hand-outs and support materials.
  6. The cost of travel to and from Bogotá.
  7. Post-Summit, all ‘Delegates’ become lifetime members of the One Young World Ambassador network which spans 196 countries with over 8,000 members.

Who can apply?

In order to apply you must: 

  1. Aged 18 – 30
  2. A national of Pakistan

Candidates must demonstrate:

  • Evidence of commitment to creating positive change in Pakistan. This commitment can come in many forms; ranging from a high level of involvement in community initiatives to social entrepreneurship or from leading responsible business practices to public service
  • Leadership ability and examples
  • Concern and knowledge of local and related global issues must be evident
  • Ability to generate, articulate and achieve impactful ideas
  • Teamwork

Location: Bogotá, Colombia

Application Deadline: August 18th 2017

Official Link to Apply for One Young World Summit 2017- Leading Pakistan Award 

https://www.oneyoungworld.com/leading-pakistan-award-0

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Fellowship to COP 23 in Bonn, Germany (Fully Funded)

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Climate Tracker is launching its COP23 opportunity, and it is stacked with opportunities and prizes for Trackers from everywhere in the world!

If you want to be part of this incredible transition, it’s time to raise your voice, and join their opportunity for a Fully Funded trip to COP23, in Germany in November.

With the signing of the Paris Agreement almost two years behind them, it is time to step up their game. The Renewable Energy Transition is unstoppable! Even if Trump wants to pull out of the Paris Agreement, now he wants Solar Panels on Border Wall.

Around the world, Renewable energy is driving bigger changes than we have seen in generations, and the pressure is on for countries to take their transitions even further. 

Benefits

  • Fully funded fellowship (including accommodations, travel, allowance)
  • Join the United Nations Framework Convention on Climate Change 23rd conference of parties

Am I eligible to apply?

Participants from all countries between the ages of 18 and 30 years old are eligible.

They do have one special set of Countries, and they will definitely select at least one person from the following Countries:

Indonesia | The Philippines | India | Ethiopia | Nigeria | Egypt | Bangladesh | Peru | Pakistan | Turkey

But they have 4 other spots available for anyone in the world!

They encourage young writers from around the world (like yourself) to help us write inspiring stories and to publish them in media, and we will reward five of you with a spot to COP 23 in Germany!

Publish 3 articles on the topics of:

  1. Renewable Energy,
  2. Climate Finance,
  3. and Climate and Health.
Deadline: September 30, 2017

Official Link to Apply for Fellowship to COP 23 in Bonn, Germany (Fully Funded)

http://app.climatetracker.org/competition/52aa87a3-3ed2-4392-8c50-e5473a9b36a2/information

Deadline: September 30, 2017

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The TED 2018 Fellowship program (Fully Funded)

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The TED 2018 Fellowship program (Fully Funded)

The TED Fellows program opens applications to find a new class of extraordinary thinkers and doers. The TED Fellowship program has the ability to slingshot your career forward. As a Fellow, you will be introduced into a powerful network of innovators that can be future collaborators.

Eligible Regions: Open for All

Benefits

  • Once applicant are selected as a TED Fellow, then organizer will cover applicant flights (or equivalent) to and from the TED conference, any visa that may need, room, board + food while at the conference, and a conference pass.
  • TED will provide a formal letter of invitation that should be sufficient for most countries’ visa applications.
  • Your formal letter of invitation can also be used to document the trip if applicant are a student studying in another country. TED do cover visa application fees.
  • Fellows have access to personal mentorship opportunities

Eligibilities Requirement:

  • Applicants of ages 21-40 and anyone over age 18 is welcome to apply.
  • After get selected as ted fellow, applicant will be required to block off a total of eight consecutive days (April 21 – 28, 2018 in order to be a TED Fellow)
  • English proficiency is required.

Deadline: September 10, 2017

Official Link to Apply for TED 2018 Fellowship program (Fully Funded)

https://www.ted.com/participate/ted-fellows-program/apply-to-be-a-ted-fellow

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Heartbroken bride throws feast for the homeless after wedding called off

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A woman who called off her $30,000 wedding has invited homeless people to come and eat the food prepared for the reception.

Sarah Cummins, 25, broke off her wedding, then realised that her sit-down reception dinner for 170 at the Ritz Charles was non-refundable.

Feeling “really sick” about throwing away the food she had ordered for the reception, she began contacting local homeless shelters and has invited people to come along.

“We’re doing all the same stuff, just arranging the tables differently, so there’s no head table for the bridal party, no cake table or gift table,” Cummins told Media.

Purdue University pharmacy student Sarah Cummins, 25, has spent the past few years planning her dream wedding. She’s spent years saving and working overtime to pay for the $30,000 extravaganza.

Cummins arranged for two buses to pick up about 170 residents and their families.

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