The most dreadful word a Pakistani student can hear in his student life is ‘fail’. Although Pakistani’s have proved to show the world, their extraordinary talent in an assortment of fields- be it education, politics and many others there are students in Pakistan that persist to struggle to achieve preferred positions, designations and most of all grades. We all know how concerned our parents are about our grades, and not so providentially some students who could not grab the utmost of their scores and grades they live their sophomore years with the constant ranting by the society. Not only does the society blame them, but their parents too are ashamed of them?

So does a failure in grades means that the person is a total failure? Well absolutely not, Pakistani students need to realize this. FAILING in itself demands us to; give it another go for least a statistically significant number. What if you fail? A failure helps us shape us our dreams and aspirations and work hard for them. Talk about JK Rowling, Bill Gates and the element if failure has made their success worth it. Talking about a few of their success stories we might get a better insight on what made them work hard even after the failures. This way, many people can know, as a matter of fact that how necessary it is to continue with the same zeal and zest even after you have failed once. You need to have faith in God, and believe that your capabilities will make you, find your way through it.

J. K. Rowling; We owe that woman for Harry Potter, don’t we? Rowling may be undulating in a lot of Harry Potter  today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.

Oprah Winfrey; Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a uneven and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks.

Bill Gates; Gates didn’t seem like a shoe-in for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global empire that is Microsoft.

Albert Einstein; Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.

Isaac Newton; was undoubtedly a genius when it came to math, but he had some failings early on. He never did particularly well in school and when put in charge of running the family farm, he failed miserably, so poorly in fact that an uncle took charge and sent him off to Cambridge where he finally became into the scholar we know today.

The reason for providing you with the history of their stories and all is to stimulate courage inside of you and optimism will help many people around the world to continue to have success stories after failures. Going through these failures and successes is what makes you work passionately for your preferred profession or career.

The most dreadful word a Pakistani student can hear in his student life is ‘fail’. Although Pakistani’s have proved to show the world, their extraordinary talent in an assortment of fields- be it education, politics and many others there are students in Pakistan that persist to struggle to achieve preferred positions, designations and most of all grades. We all know how concerned our parents are about our grades, and not so providentially some students who could not grab the utmost of their scores and grades they live their sophomore years with the constant ranting by the society. Not only does the society blame them, but their parents too are ashamed of them?

So does a failure in grades means that the person is a total failure? Well absolutely not, Pakistani students need to realize this. FAILING in itself demands us to; give it another go for least a statistically significant number. What if you fail? A failure helps us shape us our dreams and aspirations and work hard for them. Talk about JK Rowling, Bill Gates and the element if failure has made their success worth it. Talking about a few of their success stories we might get a better insight on what made them work hard even after the failures. This way, many people can know, as a matter of fact that how necessary it is to continue with the same zeal and zest even after you have failed once. You need to have faith in God, and believe that your capabilities will make you, find your way through it.

J. K. Rowling; We owe that woman for Harry Potter, don’t we? Rowling may be undulating in a lot of Harry Potter  today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.

Oprah Winfrey; Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a uneven and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks.

Bill Gates; Gates didn’t seem like a shoe-in for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global empire that is Microsoft.

Albert Einstein; Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.

Isaac Newton; was undoubtedly a genius when it came to math, but he had some failings early on. He never did particularly well in school and when put in charge of running the family farm, he failed miserably, so poorly in fact that an uncle took charge and sent him off to Cambridge where he finally became into the scholar we know today.

The reason for providing you with the history of their stories and all is to stimulate courage inside of you and optimism will help many people around the world to continue to have success stories after failures. Going through these failures and successes is what makes you work passionately for your preferred profession or career.

There are several ways in which people describe it- good, sad, tension free, stressful, busy, frustrating, etc. But have we been looking at it the way it really is? Well, few of us do, few of us don’t. Somewhere deep inside we all do know that life of this world is nothing but temporary and we fail to realize it often.

Let me tell you some secrets which you know, but still needs some brushing to actually realize.

Nobody really understands life much but yes, everyone is at his own different level of experiencing, enhancing and living it. Life of this world is doubtlessly temporary, so how can your problems be permanent? Some people move on with the problems, some don’t and for the rest of it, giving up seems easy. Its easy to blame it all on life and luck, etc. instead for seeing through it because it gives a temporary fix to your problems. Let’s face it,we all fool ourselves to an extent that we stop seeing the reality at some point. Though its quite sad, but may be it’s now an evolutionary change in human behavior.

Problems, however, are meant to make us strong, change our mind set,increase our tolerance and patience basically. Remember only you can make you happy. Every thing comes with positivity and negativity and it is on us how we take it in, so get through it. No wonder there is a term ”depression” in our society. Half of the people self diagnose themselves as depressed ,frustrated, etc.’ which is kind of bad because they start losing hope. There is no way to know your strength and ability if you cry over your problems and run from it or them. Once you start seeing a positive side of a mere situation you will learn and grow. All your scars wont heal until you let go. Best way of not being bothered by certain issues is to simply ignore them when you can while you can. Once you start telling yourself the truth you will grow stronger and be more stable.

There is a lot this life has to offer. Smile a lot and often. Well that doesn’t hurt or does it? Not facing issues will only pile them up for later. Its like doing homework; just finish it off in time so that you don’t need to think of it ever again. The main problem comes when we start ignoring the truth about ourselves. We know it, that’s why it is hard to accept and move ahead. Problems are like weak chains we are held in, once you are confident enough that you are stronger than those chains, just break through. Don’t give your problem the power to control you.

When you feel you are nothing, or that you can’t do something and such random thoughts float through your brain, which by the way was made for much more efficient work than just thinking absolute nonsense which we are prone to these days, just remember we were born alone except though in case of twins and so on which makes it unreasonable. So yeah, we were born alone and we will die alone, a thought which is always buzzing in our ears is somehow true and hard to accept for people like me who believe in ‘carpe diem’ . But yes, when you feel alone this is what you should tell yourself- You are good the way you are and always have been. We don’t need people or particular person to tell us that we are capable of this and that. We know who we are. We only have to believe in ourselves for once and it will be easy. There is a lot that can be written over this, but it all points towards the same thing and that is ”BELIEVE AND BECOME”.

Learn to be alone, positive and yet like it. There’s nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your company and moving forth in life with a renewed zeal always.

Firdos Rehman
MGM Medical College